Your Wake Up Call

There comes a time when you have to look at your life and make a decision to continue living life the way you’ve been living it or make some changes. You’ve heard it before and it’s true, you can’t expect to have different results doing the same thing you’ve been doing. If you’re ready to let go of the excuses and really change things in your life watch this video. If you’re not ready, watch this video. You won’t regret it.

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Summer of Personal Development


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Summer is here and lots of people use the next few months to kick back and pretend like the struggles and disappointments of life are on hold. The truth is, summer is a time of growth. Look around and you’ll notice all the growing plants and animals. Summer can also be a time of growth for you. A time to do some introspection and work on personal development. A time to let go of behaviors,thoughts and patterns that are holding you back from being your most awesome you.

What has you feeling stuck? Not following through with what you want most? Is it a course you purchased but haven’t even looked at? A promotion that you want but haven’t taken steps to make yourself the ideal candidate? How about a better relationship with your loved one, children, friend? How about the gym membership and weight loss program you have purchased but still haven’t used?

A summer of personal development can change it all. Take a look at my private coaching and let’s see how I can help you become all that you want to be. Schedule A Call Today

Don’t Underestimate that Walk in the Park

I LOVE nature. Being outside surrounded by old trees, water, and even the bugs, invigorates me. I feel refreshed, alive, and I am ready for “what’s next” in my day. 

Whenever I allow several days to go by without my time outdoors I notice the difference in myself. I am easily agitated, my to-do list becomes burdensome, I feel like I need to get away. 

I did not observe the correlation between my demeanor and my touch with nature right away.  However, ever since my realization, I make it a priority to spend time in my green environment regularly. 

There may be an activity, a certain environment, or even a scent that makes you feel alive, that sets the reset button on the chaos brewing in your life. Don’t underestimate the simple things that can make your life more satisfying. Make these a regular part of your week and revel in the change it brings to your life. 

What makes you feel recharged and ready for “what’s next”?

Forgiveness

Have you ever been disappointed with yourself? I have. I was living a life that was not in alignment with who I was deep inside. I was victorious, “winning” at life on the inside, but on the outside I was failing, on the precipice of losing just about everything. How did I get there?

One thing was certain. I didn’t get to that place in my life overnight. No, that destination was years in the making. Little decisions made here, big ones made there, not following God’s lead, not asking for His direction.

As things started falling apart I began recognizing my role in it all. Because I could see my folly, I felt that I deserved everything that was happening to me. The life I was living was one that I created. I made my bed, I had to lay in it. End of story.

Well, I grew tired of laying in that bed and needed to do something about it. It was time to “earn” my way out of it. Yes, earn. I needed to work harder to turn things around. I needed to prove myself and boy did I have a lot to prove. At  least that’s what I thought.

I immediately got to work trying to prove myself worthy of something different in my life. Things would start to change and then they would fall apart. I would be on the brink and everything would come tumbling down. Why was this happening? During this time God gave me some instructions, the direction to go, He told me to trust Him. I didn’t do what He said but I thought I was trusting Him.

One day, I had an “aha” moment. I was reading a paranormal romance book called Dark Lover by JR Ward (it’s amazing where you can find what you need to move forward). The family of one of the main characters in the book was underseige. To protect him, his father locked him in a safe space. He survived. His parents died. He could not forgive himself for not breaking out of the safe place and fighting with his parents. He suffered for centuries (did I mention he was a vampire) with self-worth issues. Wrath was born with a vision impairment. After his parents’ death and as he aged he started going blind and eventually lost his sight. In a dream I had an epiphany, if Wrath could forgive himself for not being able to fight with his parents the night of their murder, he would get his sight back. I don’t know if that’s part of the author’s story line or not, but it’s the revelation that I had. You’ll see where I’m going with this in a minute.

That same day, I was listening to a success author/coach, Lisa Nichols, speak about her journey and how in order to create the life that she wanted she had to learn to forgive herself. There it was again. I realized that I needed to forgive myself.

I was worthy because I was, because I exist. That life I wanted was mine because of God’s grace and mercy but I would not allow myself to receive it. I believed that I had to earn it, I had to do some things to make myself worthy of it. If I were ever going to extricate myself from the web that I was weaving I was going to have to forgive myself.

I immediately thought of the things that I was disappointed with and said out loud that I forgive myself. I forgave myself for everything that I knew I was holding against myself. A breath of fresh air literally washed over me. I forgave myself. I was enough. I am enough. My experiences led me to here and fueled my passion to help others.

Do you need to forgive yourself so that you can usher in the life that you really want for yourself? Look in the mirror and say out loud “I forgive you” and forgive yourself of it all and welcome your new life.

Be blessed.

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Please don’t let me wing it and fly by the seat of my Pants

I didn’t realize it before, but I was a rebel. I rebelled against structure and routine. I did not want to take the time to consider it all. I would rather “wing it and fly by the seat of my pants.” This way I have my freedom and I’m in control. Or, so I thought.

I scoffed at people with everything mapped out. Rise at 6, oatmeal at 6:30, chicken on Monday’s, grocery shopping on Thursday’s. How restricting I thought. My way of doing things gave me so much freedom. Rise anytime before 7,breakfast whenever I wanted (if I want), who knows what’s for dinner, and I’ll grocery shop whenever I want, thank you very much!

There’s a saying that goes “how you do anything, is how you do everything”, it’s true. My attitude about routine and planning in my daily personal life carried over to all the other areas of my life. The goals that I set for myself and the life I envisioned were not happening. Time was passing and I felt like my life was falling apart.

Where was the control and freedom I reveled in? What was happening? Why was I finding it so difficult to get things done? Things I wanted. Isn’t that what my control and freedom were all about? No schedule and no routine, doesn’t that equate to me having more time and motivation to do the things I really wanted to do?

Guess what? Not so. I gradually realized (and I do mean gradually) that having a routine, having a schedule, being (the D word), disciplined was very freeing! I looked forward to my days because I knew  exactly what was happening and when it was happening. I was getting things done. Those goals that I had wriiten down, that life I envisioned; things were falling into place. The light at the end of the rainbow, well I can see it.

Discipline, routine, a schedule, and a plan. Who would have thought the things I ran away from were the things I needed most? That’s how it usually happens though right?

Let me know what you’re running from? Take a deep look. It may be exactly what you need.

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I Hate My Life

Have you whispered these words before? I know that I have whispered some variation of them more than once. It wasn’t that I hated my life. I didn’t like the way that I was living my life but I wasn’t doing anything about it. That’s what I hated. The inaction is where my frustration lie.

If I was so frustrated with the way that I was living my life why wasn’t I doing anything about it? Good question. After all, if you don’t like the direction you’re headed change paths right?  Easier said than done. You see, I struggled with the following:

1. I did not know what I wanted my life to look like? Because I had not figured out what I wanted my life to look like I didn’t know which path to take.

2. I didn’t know where to start. I didn’t know what I wanted my life to look like and I didn’t know how to figure it out. Can you imagine how frustrated I was?

3. I wanted someone or something (a book an article) to give me a plan to follow. I knew that if I could find a book or an article or someone to show me what to do I could figure it all out. I needed a plan for figuring out what I wanted my life to look like.

Well, I found out that everything that I needed was available to me. However, it was up to me to use them. In order to use them I had to:

1. Make a decision. This sounds so simple but it is one of the hardest things to do. It wasn’t until I made the decision to change the path that I was on that I started to see things differently. It’s one thing to say that you don’t like the path that you are on, but until you make a decision that you’ve had enough of that path and are ready for something else, your mantra will remain the same, “I hate my life.”

2. Get clear on what I wanted my life to look like. Once I made the decision that I was ready to change the way that I was living my life I needed to figure out what type of life I wanted to live. I have to tell you, the only one who knows the type of life that you want to live is YOU. Yup, that’s right. You are going to have to have to take time and ask yourself some questions and answer them too. This can be fun. Answer questions like what do I want to have, what do I want to do, what type of person do I want to be, what do I want to learn, what do I like?

3. Take consistent action. Once I had an idea of what I wanted my life to look like I had a starting point. I chose something from my list and did what I could towards making it a reality. Sometimes the step I took was as simple as buying a book or borrowing one. The important thing was that I took action. No matter how small, you have to do something. Action causes momentum to build and momentum is what you will need to make the life that you want a reality.

So, if you’ve been saying “I hate my life” more than you care to admit I want to encourage you to do the following: make a decision, figure out what you want your life to look like, and take consistent action to make that life yours.

Let me know how much fun you’ve had mapping out your new life 🙂

 

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