The High Cost of Settling: Are you Settling?

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How many times have you eaten pasta when what you really wanted was a nice cheesy burrito? Or stayed in a relationship with someone you knew wasn’t “the one”, but you didn’t want to “put yourself” out there again? How about this one, remained in a job that left you feeling like you died a little every day because in 3 more years you’ll be vested? Settling seems like the easy thing to do because it doesn’t require change but it comes with a very high cost.

So, are you settling? If you answer yes to several of these then you’re probably settling. Are you:

  • Bored
  • Tired a lot
  • Daydreaming a lot
  • Procrastinating:
  • Not excited about your day
  • Have a lot of excuses for not taking action
  • Not taking action
  • Envious of others
  • Self-medicating
  • Saying “I wish I  could…” I wish I had…” I hoped I would have had…” “I regret that I didn’t…”
  • Doubting yourself
  • Doubting that you can have what you want

On the surface, settling seems easy to do, however, it comes with a high cost. I don’t think you realize just how high. Here’s what settling can cost you:

  • Happiness
  • Opportunity
  • Peace of mind

Wow, that list is pretty powerful. By settling you are setting yourself up for a life of unhappiness, stress, frustration, and lots of missed opportunities. Is that how you really want to live your life? Do you really prefer unhappiness over happiness, frustration and stress over peace of mind? I didn’t think so. So, why is that each day that you wake up you choose what you don’t really want, each day you wake up and make the decision to settle for what you do not want? Sounds harsh right? Hopefully it’s the wake up call for you to make a different choice. There is a high cost for settling. Are you settling? Stay tuned for steps you can take to stop settling and make your dream life your real life. You can read more about making your dream life your real life here: Your Dream Life Can Become Your Real Life

Share with me what settling has cost you and what you’re going to do about it.

 

 

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Your Dream Life Can Become Your Real Life


  I am frustrated by people who talk about a life they would love to live and do nothing to make it happen
. If there is one thing that I want you to get from reading this article it is that your dream life can become your real life.

If you’re dreaming of a different way of living then what you’re dreaming of is possible. You have to believe it and take steps to make it happen. Faith is having complete trust in something (dictionary.com). Trust your dream, trust that it is possible for you and go after it.

Believing that your dream can become a reality is difficult for a lot of people; I don’t want you to be one of the people who continues to doubt your dream. Say this out loud, “My dream life can become my real life”, say it until you believe it and then take steps to make it happen. Your dream life can become your real life.

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5 Things Entrepreneurs Can Do to Stay Focused on Business

As an entrepreneur or aspiring entrepreneur making time to focus on your business can be challenging. Did you notice that I used the word “making” time vs having time?

When I first started my business I could not “find the time” to consistently work on my business. There was always something seemingly more urgent requiring my attention. I would say to myself, “tomorrow I’ll have more time.” Of course, this cycle kept repeating itself and I hardly ever had more time.

The truth is that I had enough time to focus on my business and so do you. My issue (and probably yours too) was I did not make my business a priority. When you are not focused on your business you do business when you can “squeeze in time” for it or when it’s convenient for you. Think about it, if you’re in a relationship and spent time with your significant other only when it was convenient for you, is that relationship a priority? Are you focused on that relationship? Do you think the relationship will flourish? The same is true for your business. If it’s not a priority, if it doesn’t have your focus, you won’t have much traction in your business.

You want to have a foundation for your business that leads to success. Being focused on your business is a necessary part of the foundation.

Here are 5 things you can do to stay focused on your business:

1. Get really clear about what you want for your business.

Focus is “directed attention” (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/focus). To stay focused you have to know what you’re directing your attention towards. By getting clear about what you want from your business you will have something to focus on. Take the time to find this out.

2. Write down what really matters.

Ask yourself why you’re doing what you do and stick it up somewhere to remind yourself. There may be days where you’ll have to remind yourself why you’re in business in order to stay focused; on those days you’ll be glad you did this exercise.

3. Say yes to you.

You have to stop putting yourself last. Believe it or not, it’s hard to focus on business when you’re not a priority in your own life. Make time for you.

4. Make a plan to have whatever you wrote in #1 and take action on it.

You’ll stay focused when you have a plan for making the business you desire a reality. Create a realistic plan and implement it. Each time you take action, your focus will grow stronger. You can do it!

5. Sometimes you need help and it’s ok.

Honestly, you are smart and you can take action on your own. However, since you’re reading this, you probably don’t have clarity, a plan of action, or the discipline required for taking consistent action right now and it’s ok. It just means that you can continue to wait for the motivation to come or you can have someone help you get there quicker. You decide.

There you have it, 5 Things Entrepreneurs Can Do To Stay Focused on Business.

If taking consistent, focused action is the hardest thing for you to do right now, schedule a complimentary conversation with me let’s see how I can help. SCHEDULE CALL

What’s your biggest struggle with staying focused on your business and which step will you be implementing to overcome it?

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I want to change my life

I know what it’s like to want things to change in your life but not do anything about it. Feeling stuck is the worse feeling. Feeling overwhelmed because there is so much that needs to change can also be frustrating. Wanting to know all the answers and have all the lights on green before doing anything brings the worse paralysis. I was there, all the lights will never be green, you won’t know all the answers.

To change your life you have to create a plan and take action on that plan. If you’re ready for things to change in your life, really ready, and know that you will need some help, I’d like to talk with you.  We’ll talk about where you are right now and where you want to be and see if any of my private coaching programs would be right to help you get there. The call is complimentary and a great way to see what’s possible. Schedule your call today: SCHEDULE HERE

 

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Change Your Thoughts To Change Your Life

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I have a question for you, be honest, “do you hate your life?” Do you sometimes wish for a do-over but think that it’s too late for you to have a different life? You feel stuck, trapped, like there is no way out. So many regrets. I’m writing to let you know, there is a way out.

I believe that somewhere deep within, you know know that you can change your life but for whatever reason you’re afraid to change. If you’re tired of looking at everyone else enjoy their lives, you can change yours whenever you’re ready. The question is, are you ready? You’re the only one who can answer that question. The truth is you may really hate where you are right now but you are still not ready to do what it is going to take to change.If that’s where you are acknowledge it and keep working on getting to the place where you are ready to make a change.

If you are ready for the trajectory of your life to change, great. Let’s go. Guess what has you where you currently are in your life? Your thoughts. Yes, your current situation is the product of your thoughts. I know, it hurts. The first time that I read this I was livid, “no way am I responsible for my life being the way it is”. I couldn’t get that statement out my head for several weeks. I started paying attention to my thoughts and realized it was true, my thoughts were keeping me where I was. Ouch!

Dictionary.com defines a thought as the product of mental activity; that which one thinks. What is your mental activity producing? Is the life that you are living lining up with what you think about most? Over the next few days pay attention to your mental activity. If it’s not lining up with what you want to see happening in your life, think new thoughts and watch things start to change in your life.

If you’re serious about change and are ready to have a fresh start with your life. I want to invite you to be a part of my 6 week course, From No Plan to Well Planned. During our 6 weeks together I’ll show you how to map out a plan for your life and create habits that will bring you lasting success and happiness in your life. Learn more here: Create A Plan For Your Life

 

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