Have you whispered these words before? I know that I have whispered some variation of them more than once. It wasn’t that I hated my life. I didn’t like the way that I was living my life but I wasn’t doing anything about it. That’s what I hated. The inaction is where my frustration lie.
If I was so frustrated with the way that I was living my life why wasn’t I doing anything about it? Good question. After all, if you don’t like the direction you’re headed change paths right? Easier said than done. You see, I struggled with the following:
1. I did not know what I wanted my life to look like? Because I had not figured out what I wanted my life to look like I didn’t know which path to take.
2. I didn’t know where to start. I didn’t know what I wanted my life to look like and I didn’t know how to figure it out. Can you imagine how frustrated I was?
3. I wanted someone or something (a book an article) to give me a plan to follow. I knew that if I could find a book or an article or someone to show me what to do I could figure it all out. I needed a plan for figuring out what I wanted my life to look like.
Well, I found out that everything that I needed was available to me. However, it was up to me to use them. In order to use them I had to:
1. Make a decision. This sounds so simple but it is one of the hardest things to do. It wasn’t until I made the decision to change the path that I was on that I started to see things differently. It’s one thing to say that you don’t like the path that you are on, but until you make a decision that you’ve had enough of that path and are ready for something else, your mantra will remain the same, “I hate my life.”
2. Get clear on what I wanted my life to look like. Once I made the decision that I was ready to change the way that I was living my life I needed to figure out what type of life I wanted to live. I have to tell you, the only one who knows the type of life that you want to live is YOU. Yup, that’s right. You are going to have to have to take time and ask yourself some questions and answer them too. This can be fun. Answer questions like what do I want to have, what do I want to do, what type of person do I want to be, what do I want to learn, what do I like?
3. Take consistent action. Once I had an idea of what I wanted my life to look like I had a starting point. I chose something from my list and did what I could towards making it a reality. Sometimes the step I took was as simple as buying a book or borrowing one. The important thing was that I took action. No matter how small, you have to do something. Action causes momentum to build and momentum is what you will need to make the life that you want a reality.
So, if you’ve been saying “I hate my life” more than you care to admit I want to encourage you to do the following: make a decision, figure out what you want your life to look like, and take consistent action to make that life yours.
Let me know how much fun you’ve had mapping out your new life 🙂
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