My journey

Life and our choices can take us along some winding paths. Did you know that I was an environmental toxicologist and a college instructor before becoming a personal development coach (you can read more about it here ABOUT ME )? I’ve learned so much in both careers and my experiences have made me a better coach.

Don’t be discouraged by the journey you’re on. Every experience that you have has a purpose. What roads have you traveled to get where you are today? Make the most of all of it. If you feel like you’re going through the motions and not living life the way you know it can be lived, let’s talk and get you on the path to living a life you want to wake up to each day. Schedule your complimentary conversation here: SCHEDULE CALL

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Quiet Time Gives Life: 5 Signs that it’s time for some

Me having quiet time in a tree

Me having quiet time in a tree

Quiet time. It seems like a rare commodity. People are not making time for it anymore. I wonder why? Are they afraid of it? Are you afraid to be alone with yourself and God? Quiet time gives life, could this be why it is so elusive?

Lately my quiet time has not been a priority. I’ve been squeezing it in after everything else in my day is done and I’m so tired that the time I’ve been spending is so short. It’s time for me to make it a number one priority again, nothing should come before my quiet time, my time with the Lord. Once I spend time with Him He shows me how to manage my time for everything else. Once I spend time with Him, the answers to whatever problems I may be facing become clear and I am equipped to face whatever life dishes out. Quiet time gives you life and here’s how to tell that you haven’t made it a priority:

  1. You feel like your life is out of control.
  2. You feel agitated.
  3. You struggle to make decisions.
  4. Something is bothering you and you can’t seem to put your finger on what it is.
  5. You’re not the nicest person to be around.

If the list resonated with you, it’s time to make quiet time with the Lord a priority. Start where you are, wake up a few minutes earlier, go to bed a few minutes later, do whatever it takes but start somewhere.You don’t have to have big chunks of time to get started, 15 minutes is a good starting point. As you spend time with the Lord He’ll show you how to free up more time for what matters most.

Spending time alone may be difficult for you, your mind races, you can’t focus, the attention deficit really kicks in. It’s ok, keep going. The more you have time alone, the easier it will become to quiet your mind. During your quiet time tell the Lord why you’re there, what you’re feeling and then just wait on Him; He’ll give you everything you need, sometimes right then, sometimes as you go about your day. Trust Him and when you hear, obey. Your quiet time gives life, don’t go without it. Let me know how having quiet time has made your life better.

 

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The High Cost of Settling: Are you Settling?

Catacombs: Paris, France

How many times have you eaten pasta when what you really wanted was a nice cheesy burrito? Or stayed in a relationship with someone you knew wasn’t “the one”, but you didn’t want to “put yourself” out there again? How about this one, remained in a job that left you feeling like you died a little every day because in 3 more years you’ll be vested? Settling seems like the easy thing to do because it doesn’t require change but it comes with a very high cost.

So, are you settling? If you answer yes to several of these then you’re probably settling. Are you:

  • Bored
  • Tired a lot
  • Daydreaming a lot
  • Procrastinating:
  • Not excited about your day
  • Have a lot of excuses for not taking action
  • Not taking action
  • Envious of others
  • Self-medicating
  • Saying “I wish I  could…” I wish I had…” I hoped I would have had…” “I regret that I didn’t…”
  • Doubting yourself
  • Doubting that you can have what you want

On the surface, settling seems easy to do, however, it comes with a high cost. I don’t think you realize just how high. Here’s what settling can cost you:

  • Happiness
  • Opportunity
  • Peace of mind

Wow, that list is pretty powerful. By settling you are setting yourself up for a life of unhappiness, stress, frustration, and lots of missed opportunities. Is that how you really want to live your life? Do you really prefer unhappiness over happiness, frustration and stress over peace of mind? I didn’t think so. So, why is that each day that you wake up you choose what you don’t really want, each day you wake up and make the decision to settle for what you do not want? Sounds harsh right? Hopefully it’s the wake up call for you to make a different choice. There is a high cost for settling. Are you settling? Stay tuned for steps you can take to stop settling and make your dream life your real life. You can read more about making your dream life your real life here: Your Dream Life Can Become Your Real Life

Share with me what settling has cost you and what you’re going to do about it.

 

 

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5 Things Entrepreneurs Can Do to Stay Focused on Business

As an entrepreneur or aspiring entrepreneur making time to focus on your business can be challenging. Did you notice that I used the word “making” time vs having time?

When I first started my business I could not “find the time” to consistently work on my business. There was always something seemingly more urgent requiring my attention. I would say to myself, “tomorrow I’ll have more time.” Of course, this cycle kept repeating itself and I hardly ever had more time.

The truth is that I had enough time to focus on my business and so do you. My issue (and probably yours too) was I did not make my business a priority. When you are not focused on your business you do business when you can “squeeze in time” for it or when it’s convenient for you. Think about it, if you’re in a relationship and spent time with your significant other only when it was convenient for you, is that relationship a priority? Are you focused on that relationship? Do you think the relationship will flourish? The same is true for your business. If it’s not a priority, if it doesn’t have your focus, you won’t have much traction in your business.

You want to have a foundation for your business that leads to success. Being focused on your business is a necessary part of the foundation.

Here are 5 things you can do to stay focused on your business:

1. Get really clear about what you want for your business.

Focus is “directed attention” (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/focus). To stay focused you have to know what you’re directing your attention towards. By getting clear about what you want from your business you will have something to focus on. Take the time to find this out.

2. Write down what really matters.

Ask yourself why you’re doing what you do and stick it up somewhere to remind yourself. There may be days where you’ll have to remind yourself why you’re in business in order to stay focused; on those days you’ll be glad you did this exercise.

3. Say yes to you.

You have to stop putting yourself last. Believe it or not, it’s hard to focus on business when you’re not a priority in your own life. Make time for you.

4. Make a plan to have whatever you wrote in #1 and take action on it.

You’ll stay focused when you have a plan for making the business you desire a reality. Create a realistic plan and implement it. Each time you take action, your focus will grow stronger. You can do it!

5. Sometimes you need help and it’s ok.

Honestly, you are smart and you can take action on your own. However, since you’re reading this, you probably don’t have clarity, a plan of action, or the discipline required for taking consistent action right now and it’s ok. It just means that you can continue to wait for the motivation to come or you can have someone help you get there quicker. You decide.

There you have it, 5 Things Entrepreneurs Can Do To Stay Focused on Business.

If taking consistent, focused action is the hardest thing for you to do right now, schedule a complimentary conversation with me let’s see how I can help. SCHEDULE CALL

What’s your biggest struggle with staying focused on your business and which step will you be implementing to overcome it?

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Make the Shift

I love horses, their strength and power truly inspire me. When I see horses in pictures and in nature I get so happy and want to do something. Why don’t I have a picture of me with horses? I have to make that happen. I digress, back to my original thought. 

A while back, I made a decision to take action to live the life I really desired to live. There was one problem though, my action was not consistent. You probably know what happened, that life I desired was not showing up 🙁

You see, it wasn’t until I committed to taking consistent action towards what I desired that things began to shift for me. Gradually I noticed changes in me, I was becoming the person I wanted to be. I began having big shifts, incredible opportunities started showing up for me, and I wasn’t feeling stuck and unfulfilled any more. 

My consistent action was resulting in more ideas, more money, more opportunity, and more freedom for me. Was it easy getting here? NO! Was it worth it? DEFINITELY!

Will you commit today to taking consistent action towards what you want in your life?

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Change happens when you’re ready for change to happen

I’m telling you, nothing changed in my life until I did. I’m just keeping it real. You see, I tried all the shortcuts to having the life that I wanted but none of it work. You want to know why? There are no shortcuts! You have to do the work. I was really good at starting things. I would be so excited and gung ho about my next venture. A few weeks in and I would fizzle, things weren’t happening quick enough, there was so much to be done, and I wasn’t sure that this was it anyway. So, I’d regroup and move on to the next good idea. Talk about frustrating! Well, it wasn’t frustrating enough because I continued this pattern for several more years. I wanted change but didn’t know how to change.

Then, it happened, my wake up call. I finally realized that there must be something to the information all the self-help books, personal development training, and countless interviews of successful people. These people all said the same thing…maybe there are no shortcuts, maybe there is no reinventing the wheel.

You see, nothing changed for me until I did. The same is true for you. If you want to have clarity in your life, see big change happen, and accomplish the things that you desire in your life, you have to become the person who has a clear idea of where you are headed, have a plan to get there, and do what’s required to achieve it.

The business you want to start, the amazing relationship you want, the degree you’ve been dreaming of, the leadership position at work, none of it is going to happen until you become a person who makes things happen.

Still not sure this is for you? How long have you been frustrated with how you’re living your life? Waking up each day saying “there has to be more to life than this?” How long will you continue to wake up disappointed with yourself because you know that you can be and do so much more? How long will you remain the same and not change to have the life you really desire?

If you’ve read this far, I know that you’re ready to take your life to the next level. You’re ready to show up in your life and achieve all that you know is possible for you. During private mentoring with me you’ll get clear about what you desire, identify limiting beliefs that have you playing small in your life, create a plan to have what you desire to be, do, or have in your life, and implement your plan.

Are you ready to change your situation? Schedule a complimentary strategy session let’s see what happens. SCHEDULE HERE

 

 

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Motivation, where did it go and how do I get it back?

Have you ever had the desire to do or have something but couldn’t find the motivation to actually get started? Maybe you got started but coudn’t motivate yourself enough to finish.  I’ve been there and it’s no fun. Because I have been there way too many times I want to share with you how to end the start and not finish cycle in your life.

First, when the motivation is lacking it’s usually because you’re not really clear about what you want. Clarity makes you excited, it gives you something to work towards. Without it, you’re going to wander aimlessly skipping from one project to the next, never completing anything.

Well, what if you have clarity but still no motivation? When you have clarity and no motivation it is most likely because you have clarity about the wrong thing. Are you doing what your heart is calling you to do or are you doing what you’re doing because everyone else is doing it? When you work in opposition to what God has called you to do it will always be a struggle; either you will not have motivation to finish or you will finish the work and be unhappy.

I was going to write more but I think that’s enough for you to think about and take action on. Until next time.

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Your Wake Up Call

There comes a time when you have to look at your life and make a decision to continue living life the way you’ve been living it or make some changes. You’ve heard it before and it’s true, you can’t expect to have different results doing the same thing you’ve been doing. If you’re ready to let go of the excuses and really change things in your life watch this video. If you’re not ready, watch this video. You won’t regret it.

If you’re ready to do something about your life click here: I’m Ready

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Summer of Personal Development


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Summer is here and lots of people use the next few months to kick back and pretend like the struggles and disappointments of life are on hold. The truth is, summer is a time of growth. Look around and you’ll notice all the growing plants and animals. Summer can also be a time of growth for you. A time to do some introspection and work on personal development. A time to let go of behaviors,thoughts and patterns that are holding you back from being your most awesome you.

What has you feeling stuck? Not following through with what you want most? Is it a course you purchased but haven’t even looked at? A promotion that you want but haven’t taken steps to make yourself the ideal candidate? How about a better relationship with your loved one, children, friend? How about the gym membership and weight loss program you have purchased but still haven’t used?

A summer of personal development can change it all. Take a look at my private coaching and let’s see how I can help you become all that you want to be. Schedule A Call Today

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