Enjoying the holidays when you feel alone and abandoned

I was speaking with a friend who is in a very difficult season of her life right now. We were talking about Thanksgiving and she was lamenting that she wasn’t excited about cooking this year because it seems like everyone has abandoned her. I told her that she doesn’t need to be around a lot of people to enjoy the holiday. She has children and they can have a beautiful holiday meal with each other. I do it all the time with my children. So, here are some tips for enjoying the holidays when you are feeling alone and abandoned.

Tips for Enjoying the Holidays

  1. Change your perspective. Instead of thinking of what you’re possibly missing by not spending the holidays with friends, focus on the benefits of spending the holidays alone or with your children. You can cook together, play games, watch movies, talk, go for a walk, go for a drive, have an at home spa day, read, decorate, write out goals, or do something you’ve been putting off. You can do whatever you want to do. Think of the possibilities and go for it!
  2. Be Grateful. Seriously, this may sound like one of the corniest “tips” but it works. Write down 5 things (or even 1) that you are grateful for everyday. I guarantee a shift will occur and you will begin to view your circumstance differently. Try it.
  3. Do something for someone else. Helping others takes the focus off of you; not only do you feel better, you have also made someone else’s day so much better. Bake an extra pie, make some extra rolls, or give a plate of food to your neighbor. I’m feeling happy just thinking about it.
  4. Take action. Sometimes feelings of abandonment on the holidays may be alleviated by taking action to live life the way you really want to live it. When you’re just going through the motion, living life on auto-pilot, it can be easy to feel sorry for yourself during the holidays. By taking back your life, being an active participant in it with clear goals and focus, the holidays (and everyday) can be more enjoyable. If you’d like clarity and are ready to live the life you really want I’d love to have a conversation with you and show you how to map out a strategy for making it happen. You can schedule your complimentary conversation here: SCHEDULE CALL

Happy holidays!

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