Enjoying the holidays when you feel alone and abandoned

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I was speaking with a friend who is in a very difficult season of her life right now. We were talking about Thanksgiving and she was lamenting that she wasn’t excited about cooking this year because it seems like everyone has abandoned her. I told her that she doesn’t need to be around a lot of people to enjoy the holiday. She has children and they can have a beautiful holiday meal with each other. I do it all the time with my children. So, here are some tips to make the holidays more tolerable if you are feeling alone and abandoned:

  1. Change your perspective: Instead of thinking of what you’re possibly missing by not spending the holidays with friends, focus on the benefits of spending the holidays alone or with your children. You can cook together, play games, watch movies, talk, go for a walk, go for a drive, have an at home spa day, read, decorate, write out goals, or do something you’ve been putting off. You can do whatever you want to do. Think of the possibilities and go for it!
  2. Be Grateful: Seriously, this may sound like one of the corniest “tips” but it works. Write down 5 things (or even 1) that you are grateful for everyday. I guarantee a shift will occur and you will begin to view your circumstance differently. Try it.
  3. Do something for someone else: Helping others takes the focus off of you; not only do you feel better, you have also made someone else’s day so much better. Bake an extra pie, make some extra rolls, or give a plate of food to your neighbor. I’m feeling happy just thinking about it.

 

Happy holidays!

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