My elevator pitch

Happy New Year! Today’s topic for the Liveyourlegend.net blog challenge is to write my elevator pitch. An elevator pitch is basically me telling you what I do in just a few seconds. So, if we were to meet on an elevator and you asked me what I do, I would say to you:

“Hello, I’m Rochelle and I help people find joy in living.”

There you have it. I am passionate about helping people find joy in living. So many are going through the motions, living life on autopilot, hating it, and not doing anything about it. I want everyone to know that it doesn’t have to be that way, you don’t have to settle for what you currently have in your life. When you find joy in living you can better serve others. Imagine a world of people living life with joy. I like it!

One thing I’m proud of

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Today’s blog challenge is for me to write about one thing I’m proud of. Wow, I think God is trying to get my attention. I was asked this question last week while completing a goal setting workbook, this week in a conversation with a friend, and now today. So, what’s one thing I’m proud of?

I am proud of how I handled the many, many challenges I faced in 2015. 2015 was a year of incredible challenges and growth for me. I was challenged spiritually, in my health, finances, career, and purpose. The challenges were relentless, I would end one and enter another. I felt like I was in a battle and I was. During this time I clung to the Lord. I know that He is the only reason that I am still sane and can sleep at nights. Seriously, if you do not have a relationship with the Lord I encourage you to “taste and see that the Lord is good” (Psalm 34:8 KJV Bible). My troubles did not go away but He helped me to live despite what was going on around me.

I am proud of myself for seeking God first and not losing hope. I am proud of myself for continuing to press in, asking questions, learning, staying in faith, asking more questions, trusting, believing, pressing in, asking questions, trusting. What are you proud of?

What do people thank me for

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This is my second post for my 7 day blog challenge. I was supposed to write it yesterday but didn’t. Instead of staying discouraged, I jumped right back in and picked up where I left off. So, onto my second post. Today I am supposed to write about ways I help people with my talents, skill, and passions that I may not be giving myself credit for.

It is interesting that this is one of the topics that I am writing about as the year ends. This year I have realized that I take so much of my gifts and talents for granted. The things that I am gifted in require hardly any effort from me that I really don’t think that I am doing anything special.

So, what do people thank me for? People thank me for my wisdom, knowing just what to say, helping them go from overwhelm to calm. So, what are these gifts that help people so much?

  1. I am pretty good at discerning people and situations: When I meet a person I can usually pick up on their character and a little of what is really going on in their life, the unspoken stuff. Initially I thought these insights into the true nature of people were evident by everyone but now realize that they’re not and so I embrace this gift. This insight is really helpful when I’m coaching/advising.
  2. I am wise: I have experienced a lot in my life and so I have my lessons that I have learned to share with others. I also believe that because I am pretty good at discerning and seeing more than is initially presented I can offer counsel based on being able to really see what is going on. When I don’t know what to say I pray and ask God to give me wisdom. His wisdom is always the best.
  3. I am a good listener: Most people just want to be heard. I listen.

I just gave you a taste of my brilliance 🙂 What are some of your gifts and talents?

Enjoying the holidays when you feel alone and abandoned

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I was speaking with a friend who is in a very difficult season of her life right now. We were talking about Thanksgiving and she was lamenting that she wasn’t excited about cooking this year because it seems like everyone has abandoned her. I told her that she doesn’t need to be around a lot of people to enjoy the holiday. She has children and they can have a beautiful holiday meal with each other. I do it all the time with my children. So, here are some tips to make the holidays more tolerable if you are feeling alone and abandoned:

  1. Change your perspective: Instead of thinking of what you’re possibly missing by not spending the holidays with friends, focus on the benefits of spending the holidays alone or with your children. You can cook together, play games, watch movies, talk, go for a walk, go for a drive, have an at home spa day, read, decorate, write out goals, or do something you’ve been putting off. You can do whatever you want to do. Think of the possibilities and go for it!
  2. Be Grateful: Seriously, this may sound like one of the corniest “tips” but it works. Write down 5 things (or even 1) that you are grateful for everyday. I guarantee a shift will occur and you will begin to view your circumstance differently. Try it.
  3. Do something for someone else: Helping others takes the focus off of you; not only do you feel better, you have also made someone else’s day so much better. Bake an extra pie, make some extra rolls, or give a plate of food to your neighbor. I’m feeling happy just thinking about it.

 

Happy holidays!

Hiding

  

I have a confession to make. I’m ashamed of myself. I’ve been hiding someone so wonderful from you all. Keeping Him safely tucked away, showing glimpses of Him every now and then. Don’t misunderstand, He is in no way forgotten. He’s my constant companion. It’s because of Him that I am. 
I’ve been hiding Him because I didn’t want to turn people off before they even had a chance to see all the good stuff I have to offer (yes, I know). I figured I’d keep Him low key and if people wanted to know more I’d share more one on one. 

I can’t hide Him anymore. Every post that I want to write every product that I create He’s in there. He’s so intricately wrapped up in who I am that I can’t separate the message from the One who gave me the message. 

So today I’m going to introduce you to my Source, my Hope, my Redeemer, my constant Companion, the Lord Jesus Christ. The triune being, my Father, who sent His Son Jesus Christ to die, be buried, and ressurected from the dead, so that we can live. The Holy Spirit, sent by the Father so that we can be comforted and receive guidance while here on earth. 

Say hello and like the psalmist David, I too pray that you taste and see that the Lord is good. 

Putting it off again


I found myself doing it again, I was putting off what I knew needed to be done if I were to achieve my goal for the year. I was so frustrated. Why do I continue to self-sabotage? What am I afraid of? Actually, I did this year after year. Something needed to change.

I tried to make myself do what needed to be done. I read all the books, listened to the podcasts, watched the webinars, prayed and cried but nothing changed. I was bursting at the seams with information. I knew so much. This made everything even more frustrating. What was I going to do?

The answer was there but it was so simple, it was easy to overlook. The answer…it was time for me to DO! Nothing was going to change until I took action. The same is true for you. If you want things to be different in your life you are going to have to stop wishing, hoping, researching, dreaming, and get things done.

I am so passionate about helping as many people as I can to take action and start living the life that they want I wrote a journal book about it, Get It Started Get It Done. Order your copy here: Get It Started Get It Done

5 Simple and Natural Weight Loss Strategies

Weight loss, two words that can make just about anybody cringe. Losing weight doesn’t have to be a battle and keeping it off shouldn’t be either. I’m going to show you how with 5  simple and natural strategies.

Everybody has reasons for wanting to lose weight. Whatever yours is remember to be sensible and safe. This is a good place for me to add a disclaimer. I am not a medical professional so please consult a physician or a therapist if necessary before following anything listed below.

Now that that is out of the way I will say that if you implement any one of the strategies on this list you have a really good chance of seeing some change in your life. Let’s get started.

  1. Make the decision. This is a big one and I present this idea first because without it nothing much is going to happen. If you want to lose weight you have to make the decision to lose weight. It sounds simple but it can be the most difficult decision to make. No matter how much you want to lose the weight making the decision is often the hardest. Once you make the decision you’ll find the rest isn’t so hard.
  2. Get moving. I know, you’re tired of hearing this one, but it’s true. To burn off fat and calories you have to get moving. Don’t fret. You don’t have to have a gym membership or hire a personal trainer. Although, if you want to you certainly can. To get moving, all that you have to do is increase your activity level. So, get up and walk around, increase the number of steps that you take each day and you will begin to notice a difference. Remember, slow and steady wins this race.
  3. Reduce your calorie intake (especially if you’re not going to exercise). The reality is, if you’re eating and not matching your intake with what you’re burning through exercise or some other type of movement you are going to gain weight. Reducing the amount that you eat (or drink) doesn’t have to be painful. If you usually have 4 spoons of rice, have 3 or even 3 ½ instead. If you drink 5 cans of soda (even if it’s diet), reduce it to 4. Each week, gradually decrease your intake. You want to be healthy though so don’t decrease your intake too much. There are some great online resources that will let you know how many calories you should have each day. Stay within the recommended guidelines. Remember, you’re in this for the long haul. You want to lose the weight and keep it off. By gradually reducing your food intake you are more likely to keep the weight off.
  4. Supplement. Supplements can be added to your weight lost regime. It’s best to get your vitamins and minerals from foods, so that’s always the number one recommendation. However, there are some good quality supplements out there that you can try. I’m no medical doctor so always check with your physician before taking any kind of supplements. I’m only going to tell you about 2 supplements (there are tons). I thought these two were pretty interesting.

                Fish Oil: Fish oil along with exercise has been shown to reduce body fat ( Hill,                         Murphy, Buckley, & Howe ,2007). You can get your fish oil (omega 3s) from foods                 like fish (salmon, mackerel, sardine), walnuts,  and even beef (grass-fed is best).

                L-glutamine: L-glutamine is an amino acid and it has been demonstrated to                           reduce waist size (Laviano, A., Molfino, A., Lacaria, M., Canelli, A., De Leo, S.,                       Preziosa, I., & Rossi Fanelli, F., 2014). Foods rich in l-glutamine include red                           cabbage, lean cuts of beef, poultry, eggs, and dairy products.

  1. Know your “why”. This is a big one because this is why you will make your decision to lose the weight and it is also why you will keep the weight off once you have lost it. You’re the only one who knows why you want to lose weight. Be honest with yourself about what that reason is and watch things begin to change for you.

I applaud you for taking steps to losing the weight and keeping it off. I think you realize by now that weight loss has a lot to do with your mindset. If you can find a reason for wanting to lose weight and make the decision (commitment) to lose weight you will more than likely lose the weight and keep it off (that’s if some other health issue isn’t going on).
References

Hill, A., Murphy, J., Buckley, K., & Howe, P.  (2007). Combining fish-oil supplements with regular aerobic exercise improves body composition and cardiovascular disease risk factors. American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 85 (5), 1267-1274.

Laviano, A., Molfino, A., Lacaria, M., Canelli, A., De Leo, S., Preziosa, I., & Rossi Fanelli, F. (2014). Glutamine supplementation favors weight loss in nondieting obese female patients. A pilot study. European Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 68(11), 264-266.

Don’t Underestimate that Walk in the Park

I LOVE nature. Being outside surrounded by old trees, water, and even the bugs, invigorates me. I feel refreshed, alive, and I am ready for “what’s next” in my day. 

Whenever I allow several days to go by without my time outdoors I notice the difference in myself. I am easily agitated, my to-do list becomes burdensome, I feel like I need to get away. 

I did not observe the correlation between my demeanor and my touch with nature right away.  However, ever since my realization, I make it a priority to spend time in my green environment regularly. 

There may be an activity, a certain environment, or even a scent that makes you feel alive, that sets the reset button on the chaos brewing in your life. Don’t underestimate the simple things that can make your life more satisfying. Make these a regular part of your week and revel in the change it brings to your life. 

What makes you feel recharged and ready for “what’s next”?

Forgiveness

Have you ever been disappointed with yourself? I have. I was living a life that was not in alignment with who I was deep inside. I was victorious, “winning” at life on the inside, but on the outside I was failing, on the precipice of losing just about everything. How did I get there?

One thing was certain. I didn’t get to that place in my life overnight. No, that destination was years in the making. Little decisions made here, big ones made there, not following God’s lead, not asking for His direction.

As things started falling apart I began recognizing my role in it all. Because I could see my folly, I felt that I deserved everything that was happening to me. The life I was living was one that I created. I made my bed, I had to lay in it. End of story.

Well, I grew tired of laying in that bed and needed to do something about it. It was time to “earn” my way out of it. Yes, earn. I needed to work harder to turn things around. I needed to prove myself and boy did I have a lot to prove. At  least that’s what I thought.

I immediately got to work trying to prove myself worthy of something different in my life. Things would start to change and then they would fall apart. I would be on the brink and everything would come tumbling down. Why was this happening? During this time God gave me some instructions, the direction to go, He told me to trust Him. I didn’t do what He said but I thought I was trusting Him.

One day, I had an “aha” moment. I was reading a paranormal romance book called Dark Lover by JR Ward (it’s amazing where you can find what you need to move forward). The family of one of the main characters in the book was underseige. To protect him, his father locked him in a safe space. He survived. His parents died. He could not forgive himself for not breaking out of the safe place and fighting with his parents. He suffered for centuries (did I mention he was a vampire) with self-worth issues. Wrath was born with a vision impairment. After his parents’ death and as he aged he started going blind and eventually lost his sight. In a dream I had an epiphany, if Wrath could forgive himself for not being able to fight with his parents the night of their murder, he would get his sight back. I don’t know if that’s part of the author’s story line or not, but it’s the revelation that I had. You’ll see where I’m going with this in a minute.

That same day, I was listening to a success author/coach, Lisa Nichols, speak about her journey and how in order to create the life that she wanted she had to learn to forgive herself. There it was again. I realized that I needed to forgive myself.

I was worthy because I was, because I exist. That life I wanted was mine because of God’s grace and mercy but I would not allow myself to receive it. I believed that I had to earn it, I had to do some things to make myself worthy of it. If I were ever going to extricate myself from the web that I was weaving I was going to have to forgive myself.

I immediately thought of the things that I was disappointed with and said out loud that I forgive myself. I forgave myself for everything that I knew I was holding against myself. A breath of fresh air literally washed over me. I forgave myself. I was enough. I am enough. My experiences led me to here and fueled my passion to help others.

Do you need to forgive yourself so that you can usher in the life that you really want for yourself? Look in the mirror and say out loud “I forgive you” and forgive yourself of it all and welcome your new life.

Be blessed.

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